I'm sorry for the length of this post.
I'm divorced from emotionally and physically abusive exH. We have 3 DC together so still need to have contact with him for drop-offs/pick-ups, etc. I thought that by kicking him out and divorcing him the abuse would end...how wrong I was!
I am verbally abused, threatened, called names etc. almost every time I have any contact with him. He sends text messages threatening violence against me and my DP. He has reported me to SS saying that I am a drug user and frequently take drugs in the presence of DC, and that I self harm and have done this in front of the DC too. He has reported me to the police for drink driving while collecting the children. He has told everyone who will listen that I have various mental health problems and that I am not capable of looking after my children because of this. (I suffer from PND and Anxiety). He calls me 'mental' regularly.
I have started recording every meeting with him as evidence of his ongoing abuse. In the last 10 days he has tried to smash my DPs car window, admitted to me he has sent people to my house to cause damage, threatened to send them back again, and to send them to assault my DP.
I have contacted the police on several occasions over the last 5 years when he has attacked me. I contacted them again last week when he tried to smash the windows/made threats. The PO who came to speak to me seemed genuine and helpful. He was appalled that this has been going on for 5 years and the police haven't pushed for a prosecution. He said the case would be referred to the DV team and that someone would contact me. He could not believe DV hadn't contacted me up to this point,
8 days with no update, I called the station today asking what was going on. PO who is dealing with my complaint was going to call me back. I'm still waiting.
The CPS have said previously that they won't take on the case due to lack of evidence - my word against his basically. The police have not bothered to listen to the recordings/videos I have on my phone. They have not interviewed witnesses. They have never taken photos of/documented any of my injuries. They have never contacted my GP for their assessment of my injuries.
I'm at a loss. I need this to stop. Mentally and physically, I can't cope any more. I am physically sick on the days I know I will have to drop our DC off with him/he brings them back. I can't sleep because I'm scared of people coming to my house and causing damage, or assaulting my DP when he's out. I daren't go to the garden to take my bin out on an evening. I can't go out to my utility room to bring in the washing because I'm terrified of being attacked. I'm having panic attacks again, despite being on a huge dose of anti-depressants. I just don't know what to do.
I'm not sure what I'm expecting from this thread. Does anyone have any experience of dealing with an incompetent police force and what can I do to push them into doing something?
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redisthenewblack · 26/10/2016 19:17
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