Have NC'd in case anyone involved is reading (unlikely).
Came home yesterday to find DH on a long call to his parents. His mum phoned him "so he could her how his dad was talking to her". Mum was hysterical. Dad completely shut down. During the call DH found out that his dad had been having an affair for the last 29 (!) years, apparently ended last year. This is most of DH's life. His dad and mum are now arguing daily - he gets verbally abusive and demeans her, she reacts by throwing things, crying, shouting. Most recently she woke him in the small hours to ask for more info about the other woman, they argued for hours, he drove off, vanished for a day, and so on.
His mum has form for phoning so DH "can hear what his father has to say".
DH is, understandably, incredibly shaken and sad. I don't think it'd sunk in yesterday, but this morning it did, big time. I told him that IMO he shouldn't be acting as referee/mediator between them - it won't work and he'll find out things he shouldn't.
But how the hell do I help him through this? He's gotten up to go to work as normal but he's incredibly down and looking very lost. No idea what to do / suggest.
Parents live very, very far away if that makes a difference.
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How do I support my partner through this mess?
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NameChanger5000 · 25/10/2016 10:20
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