I spoke to my Mum last night. She said, 'I'm waiting for your horrible drunk of a brother to get home so that I can give him his tea which is waiting for him.' On further probing, I discovered that DB, who is 49, is regularly drinking at weekends, coming home drunk and being abusive.
Mum hates the way he behaves, but if she tries to talk about it, he argues with her and gets aggressive. He's my younger brother and bullied me in childhood, I know how horrible he is, but he's always been Mum's favourite and I've been a lone voice.
Dad died last July and she's had a lot to deal with. She doesn't need this. How can DB be so inconsiderate and selfish? I have another very much younger brother who also living at home - he's in a steady job, does his share of the cooking and housework and pays his way. Mum said that when he steps in to support her, 'well, then it's fisticuffs'.
At the moment I'm too far away and can't travel to be there with Mum. My son will go shortly and spend the weekend there. He has a better relationship with DM than I do and will cheer her up. But practical solutions are needed. If I thought my youngest DB would do it, I'd say call the police the next time this kicks off - but I suspect that he's not assertive enough and Mum would be too ashamed...
Any thoughts?
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tormentil · 24/10/2016 14:53
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