We are 3 months seperated and I feel like I'm finally coming to terms with the split (his choice as he no longer loved me)
I have moved out of the marital home and it has been put on the market - he sleeps there on occasion, but isn't really living there still.
I started mediation process (which he agreed to) and received a letter today from the mediation service to say he still hadn't been in touch - I sent him a text asking if he had changed his mind so I could let my solicitor know.
I have had a response back saying he still wants to go ahead with it , but has been struggling to find the time and money, but will be in touch with them early this week to sort - he asked me to bear with him as he is struggling.
He told me he has no life, no friends, no money and is battling depression, he acknowledged it was his choice but that he is really struggling.
Am I wrong to feel sorry for him despite all the upset he has put me through in the last few months? I know my family will tell me he has brought it on himself and that it's what he deserves, but I'm finding it hard to turn off 17 years of feelings quite so easily.
Sat here in tears feeling so low for him and my default is to want to help - how do I toughen up, or is this just a stage of the process I need to go through?
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Feeling sorry for STBXH
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CherryBlossomPink · 22/10/2016 22:00
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