I have two children, 5 and 4. My life has been consumed by them since the eldest was born which is fairly normal I think. Last night I looked in the mirror and had a really weird experience, like I had suddenly awoken from a long sleep and that I was having a moment of clarity.
I know that sounds rambly, but ultimately what I mean is that I feel like I have lost my twenties, I was pregnant at 24 and am now 30 and I am.....almost distraught all of a sudden that those years of my mid to late twenties have gone in a haze of baby rearing and I can never get them back.
I realised, last night, that I made a mistake settling with the children's father. I knew at the time but went along with it all. He "showed me who he was" when I was pregnant with DD1 and I realised then it was all a mistake and booked a termination but didn't go through with it.
I don't regret my children for one moment but I know that the truth is I had them with the wrong person and too early for me.
I feel like I am almost mourning for the life I think I should have had, the life I thought I would have and it is too late now as I have committed to all these life decisions that cannot be unmade. It feels like a peculiar "sliding doors" moment where I have seen the other door and have now realised that's the one I was meant to take.
I am on anti depressants for full disclosure and haven't taken them for two months as I forgot a few then just left them. So I am probably feeling like this because of that but can't help feeling that this is how I actually feel and is just being masked by medication.
I want to rewind 10 years and start the past decade again.
I don't think I'll come back to this as just wanted to write it down somewhere, there is no advice that can really help because I'm not really asking anything! So don't feel you have to respond as I possibly won't reply.
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Feel like I've just woken up
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AdamantEve · 16/10/2016 08:22
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