Im in a relationship with my partner who is emotionally abusive. Weve ben togtehr 8 years and have a beautiful baby girl together. He has always been insecure about relationships as he was brought up in a volatile home surronded by affairs.
The thing is ive never cheated and hes adamant im always upto something. Anyway to cut a massive story short...
The other week i decided to get a facebook account to keep in touch with all friends. He mafe me delete my page 6 years ago. But since having my daughter i have met lots of mummy friends and want to feel pary of the group. I havs no males on my page as it would cause outrage. When i told him i got favebook (was building up2 it all day ) we wete in bed. He demamded my phone searched through it all and then through it at the cupboard and was shoting wjile r 1 year old slepr in between us. Told me he hated me all because.i had a fb page with photos of r daughter on.
We dont speak for a bit.hostile at home for sges. Then we start getting along. Then on sunday we decide ro go on a nice day out (very rare) as im getting in the car whilst hea strapping r daughter in. He jumps up and starts shouting in the street really loud "how dare you fin humiliate me like that" i think whoa what the hell have i done were meant to be having a nice day. I ask him what ive done and he is like u fin know what uve done. Apparently i had been looking ovwr at our guy neighbour (who we dont get along with) and making a sjow of him by actig likw i fancy him (school yard stuff) so i gpt in the car crying and thought i dont want to spoil the family day out. Then we got 10mins down the round and something just made me think i dont deserve this and i rold him i was leaving. Got all mine and banys stuff to go my mums.
Just as i was aboit to leave he cried saying i cant take his daugter away from him. Which swalloed me up with guilt as shes all he really has. He doesnt have many friends or family. And i felt so guilty i stayed.
Started my masters degree on weds and decided to study tonighy and he turned the light off on me and said we cant afford to have the light on. I said dont be so tight ibe got tp study and he started shouting jow i was fuxking childish.
I need to get out of this mes, im still kind lf young (27) and i nees ro rebuild my life, i have zero confidence and no finanical help. I juat feel terrible taking his daughter away from him. Even tho i would only be down road and i have told him he xan see her as mich as he wants.
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louisejanep · 14/10/2016 23:45
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