Aibu - is it bloody annoying if someone follows you around staring at you while you Hoover?

[ExpatTrailingSpouse]

I wouldn't say I shouted (except to be heard over the Hoover), and I got a whiny "but I just wanted to see what you were doing". This was after about five minutes of him following me from area to area and just standing there watching. I mean if I'm pushing it around and it's sucking dirt up off the floor it's pretty obvious what I'm doing right?

[laurenandsophie]

Er, is this a very young child? Or a grown adult?
If it's an adult doing this, hand over the vacuum cleaner and tell them if they're so bloody interested they can do it instead.

[ExpatTrailingSpouse]

Oh yes oops. Grown adult - "d"h Did point out instead of staring at me vacuuming he could use his common sense and go do some chores himself or otherwise make himself useful. Got the "but you're so mean to me telling me to go away" and various other crap. Sigh... Just needed a vent.

[TheMasterMurderedMargarita]

Eh? How odd
If DH did that I'd turn the hoover on him.
He sounds very needy.
Maybe if he does it again you could ask him to make you a cuppa for when you're done instead of being so 'mean'.

[ExpatTrailingSpouse]

Ah margarita if only - making me a cuppa is a whole other saga ...

[laurenandsophie]

Gross. Sounds like you're married to a needy, over sensitive small child.

[Longdistance]

I'd have whacked him with the hoover. How weird to follow someone around and clearly know what they're doing.

Yy, to go do a chore.

Btw, this wasn't 4am in the morning? Right?...

[ExpatTrailingSpouse]

longdistance - haha absolutely not. Living overseas it's only 11pm here. And it happened about 5pm - have just been stewing over it all evening trying to work out if I did in fact overreact or if man child needs to grow up (I think in the ensuing argument I may have told him he needed to do so!)

[JustGettingStarted]

Is this the only thing he does or is he clingy in other ways as well?

[SnaggleBeast]

My DH used to do this in shops. If I was scanning around looking for sone particular thing in one aisle, he would follow right next to me. Two steps one way, three steps back etc right beside me. Even with a bloody trolley. He has learnt not to.

[ExpatTrailingSpouse]

Omg snaggle - flashbacks to when he used to go to the shops with me and then stop dead in front of me between me and what I was looking at. Without fail. Every bloody time.

[ExpatTrailingSpouse]

justgettingstarted - symptomatic of other deeper issues. Was just trying to see if I was a shrieking harpy under general circumstances.

[ChuckBiscuits]

What are the other general issues? If anyone stood watching me hoover, i would leave them to get on with it themselves and go do something infinitely more interesting.

[ExpatTrailingSpouse]

buckets - i finished what I was doing but he was determined to start an argument about how I was being so unreasonable. And then snatched up the vaccuum after i was done and sort of wafted it over miscellaneous floor parts (didn't actually get most of the dirt/dog hair).
We are likely to split in the near future (whole other thread, emotional/maybe physical affair on his part, etc etc) and this sort of crap doesn't help.
Condensed longer version: I'd been out with ds and when I left he Had started to clear up in the garden. Came home and start doing my bit, turns out he went to bed and slept the whole time we were out. When he came downstairs, he came to stare at me vaccuum because he apparently couldn't tell that's what I was doing when it was turned on making loud noise and sucking up dirt of the floor ...

[AttilaTheMeerkat]

Why are you together at all?

[ExpatTrailingSpouse]

Meerkat - i think i ask myself that daily nowadays... i had hopes that his idiocy had been a wakeup call but apparently not. sigh... extrication is complicated because of custody/other rules.

[Cocoabutton]

well, I hope you can get out of that soon. That is bizarre behaviour.