DH and I have been married for 7 years with 6 & 4 year old DC. We've always had a happy marriage, compatible and similar outlooks on life and have sailed through the usual pressures that life brings. I will add here that before getting married I knew he had a problem with gambling, but had not gambled since 2008.
This all changes about 4 months ago. We just suddenly seem to be deeply unhappy with each other, we seem to not be able to communicate anymore - everything ends up in a disagreement.
2 weeks ago I found out that for the last year he has been gambling again and has ran up about £2k worth of debt. I'm furious with him, not just because of the money but I'm just disappointed in him.
We have lots of other debts (15k) just due to life of high mortgage, childcare and things going wrong in the house. Both of us are stressed about this and I know this is a driver to our unhappiness.
We have no family support, both work full time and so life is just a drudge. My job is very very stressful and I work most week around 50 hours. This is having an effect on my health and general resilience I know.
This am we had a terrible argument as the dishwasher has broken. We shouted and were so awful to each other, terrible name calling. The children heard it all. I was in floods of tears, just awful.
He has taken DS out until after lunchtime now. I just don't know where we go from here, but I know that I cannot go on feeling so sad and cross like I do. I actually feel like my heart is breaking at the thought that our marriage is in such a mess, but the idea that we live like this forever is equally painful to consider.
Any thoughts or comments would be gratefully received.
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exhaustedhome · 02/10/2016 09:38
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