I was going to nc but in the end i decided why bother.
I dont want to drip feed but i dont want tobore you to death either so i will bullet point the important bits. I advise you to stop at this point if you are easily bored
- Married 11 years together for 15
- Great at the start lots of love, romance snd sex
- 4 DC later he works alot, goes to the gym out with friends.
- I am mum 23 hours out of 24. I try to make it work but eventually i give up
- I ended it 2 years ago. He agreed.
- We co parent very well. Shared care no arguments. Speak weekly and on same page.
- i meet new guy. At the start he accepts my busy life.
- However 12 months on my just 14 yo son is now a devil child. Not easy to live with and quiet stressfull. Typical teenager. Nothing major.
- New man decides despite all his promises he cannot do this. I have never expected him to patent i only needed him to support me. My son is not easy and i am not soft but he is a teenager. Life is pretty confusing for him so i do bollock him but i know it is a phase.
- New man only wants to be with me when my children are not with me. He does spend time with the other 3 but wont stay here when my 14 yo does.
- i said ok to this as i love him and want to be with him......BUT
A week in i am not feeling in a relationship. Its not like he is making extra effort on "our" days. I dont feel like we are dating, which is fun, it just feels like well old.
I have comprimised and given him the space he needs but i dont feel like i am getting anything in return.
It is a AIBU but i dare not post there.
So AIBU to think i am getting nothing from this relationship?