If left my STBEXH the end of last Nov, with our 2 boys following a 20 year marriage. I had learned 8 months before about an affair, which he still denies. Now having left I have learned that the relationship abusive. With control and amnioukation and years of brainwashing, that I was losing my mind, i didn't see it for what it was. He's a charmer and able to pull the wool over everyone's eyes, including mine. I have recently learned he is in yet another relationship, and continue to learned about other incidences when he's cheated during the course of our marriage. It seems my whole married life has been a lie and I've been in love with a stranger.
I've been gone 12 months now, we have no contact anymore except through the mediator and solicitor. But learning about all these affairs still hurts like hell, and reduces me to a pathetic heap. When will this stop feeling so raw? I don't want him back, and will never be able to forgive him... But when will I be able to be free from the upset?
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user1474193901 · 18/09/2016 11:30
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