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Anonymous2016 · 08/09/2016 15:45

Hey. I've joined to have a rant and listen to advice.

I've been in a relationship with a man for almost 2 years and while he makes the happiest I can be he also makes me the saddest.

He has been married previously, it finished 5 years ago and I have only known him a little over 2 years. He has 3 children all above 14.

I have no baggage whatsoever in this relationship.

Where it gets complicated is that I live with him outside of the UK for summer and after that I go back to the UK for a month or so and then fly out to where he's working for the next 6 months or so. The first month of him being away is he stays with his ex wife and children in the same house as he only sees them for 8 weeks of my year. While he's there it ends up like they are married again. When I try to call and it doesn't suit him we end up falling out, he seems to put the ex wife before me and in general keeps peace with her but happily upsets me to have an easy life. This year I was meant to be going with him to meet his children and now I'm not because it says it's pressure with the ex wife. She has been horrible to me from the start sending me and him nasty messages constantly and she manipulates him and he seems to allow it. The hurt I feel when he visits and stays in the same house instead of renting his own place or hotel like normal people would when this woman is a

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adora1 · 08/09/2016 15:47

Doesn't sound like he is ever going to make you a priority, in fact he's treating you like the OW, time to move on and find someone who can actually be with you, life is too short for this drama.

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