Just a ranty post really but I'm so cross! I don't earn alot at all, but we fairly comfortably live within our means. I've been taking on extra hours for spare money but with every payday it's becoming apparent I need to inform tax credits, and of course our entitlement drops. We were also recently landed with a big overpayment from housing benefit because I was earning too much. We're losing about £400 from benefits, which I'm finding it hard to top up now. I'm due to start my degree in October so working more hours than I'm already doing, on top of dc commitments seem like too much to handle. My oh is so one track minded and getting a 'real job' just doesn't seem to be an option for him. He was running his business fairly successfully for three years, wasn't regular money but he was getting there. He then decided to pack it all up for a passion project, leaving me to deal with finances again (in the 8 years we've been together he's only worked in a stable, regular paid job for 2) so when I rang him to say our tax credits will drop his response was 'well what are we going to do'. Argh, could have screamed. Thing is whenever it's brought up its always 'but I'm in the middle of this and I won't have time to finish it if I work'. How much pressure can I put on myself before I snap? I don't have the qualifications or experience for anything other than what I'm doing now, and to be honest there's a part of me that thinks why the hell should I get a better paid job that I'm likely going to hate and suck at when, if he just got a part time job, it could easily make up what we're losing? AIBU?
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How skint do we have to be before my oh gets a flipping job?!
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DaniSecker · 08/09/2016 12:24
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