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So embarrassed -fancy my personal trainer

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Itsnotlikeme Sun 04-Sep-16 21:59:43

blush have name changed for this.

Have recently coming out of a LTR, and for the first time in years have decided to think about me. I am seeing a personal trainer 3 times a week at a gym which only runs personal training.

I cannot help but fancy my trainer, who has been nothing but kind and patient with me. I know it's a cliche but I really feel that he genuinely does hold my gaze longer than would be normal and seems to smile at me more than the other trainers doing with their clients. I have not told him I am single but he did ask who I was going on holiday with - my sister. There have been a couple of probably chance coincidences - our fathers are suffering from the same long term illness, we got the same results on a personality questionnaire, if I mention something like that that I much prefer being busy, he says he does too and tells me about all the things he is involved in. I am sure this must be obvious to everyone else so I have tried to be serious during some seasons but when i do this he has commented that im not my usual positive self.

I don't actually think that he is a notch on the bed post kind of guy, particularly as he has had a career change and this is his first job as a trainer.

I am ten years older than him!! Please help me as I know how stupid this sounds and I have spent the whole weekend mooching around trying to convince myself that he fancies me!

ALaughAMinute Sun 04-Sep-16 22:51:12

If he's single you could always try flirting with him and see how he responds.

Blueshoessingloose Sun 04-Sep-16 23:42:02

What are you looking for in a man? A long term relationship or just fwb? Most men are not interested in older women as long term partners but they'll be happy to have sex with them if they think they're hot right now. They can be good for flings to boost the ego.

If you're looking for a life partner and he is interested in that are you prepared to be hanging out with people ten plus years your junior? What stage are you both at in your lives? Could you be socially compatible?

You could flirt with him a little to see what happens but not so much that you make him uncomfortable if he's not interested. He sounds professional and friendly.

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