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Bank holidays, new babies and the loneliness of being separated

(7 Posts)
Goodgirl77 Mon 29-Aug-16 21:26:06

Feeling teary tonight bank holidays which are, or have been in my experience, big family days that are now hateful days now I'm separated. They make me feel so different and mournful. Yes I know I should just suck it up. Not to mention that practically everyone I know is pregnant, my one and only child starts school next week and some annoying friend of a friend stopped me today to say how mortified she didn't know I was separated last time she saw me. Gossips! So lots of crying. I know feeling sorry for myself is lame but you know.

ivykaty44 Mon 29-Aug-16 21:29:41

I was thinking about this today, a single mum with now grown up dc.

I now go to meet up and have made lots of good friend - many single and many with dc.

Start a meet up group for single parent families to meet up at weekends? Arrange outings on bank holidays? It would be a good way to enjoy the time with others in the same boat

Goodgirl77 Mon 29-Aug-16 22:42:28

Not sure where to start! Literally all my friends are married with families. My family are great but I feel like spare part!

RedSquirrel24 Mon 29-Aug-16 22:52:29

Ivykatie44 that is a great idea, Goodgirl77 I felt like you, weekends and bank holidays were so hard knowing that others were spending it with family and I was alone with three young dc's. It all changed for me when I moved house and I made new friends in the village where I live, still have some kinky weekends but I do oftern get invited to join other families, which is better than being alone but hard too sometimes. I had a really good friend who was also single and that was great spending time with her, but she has now met someone which means she has less time to hang out with me . Keep on going, get out and about to the park etc and you will meet more parents and possibly some single ones with time to hang out at the weekends. Dreading my kids going back to school too, but I hope your do runs in, makes friends and loves it, and you never know what new friends are just around the corner at the school gate for you to meet! I do sump atheist and dos cry this evening too 😟 It's hard but keep your chin ip

ivykaty44 Tue 30-Aug-16 06:43:46

I think there must be so many lonely single parents at weekends and bank holidays. It would be great if you could start a meet up or Facebook club for single parents to organise stuff to do together.

Stuff like picnics in the park,
BBQ, where everybody brings stuff to cook
Swimming on a Sunday

Also get together for when nrp has dc and you want to get out on your own to meet up at the weekend

Goodgirl77 Tue 30-Aug-16 18:15:59

Great idea ivykaty44!

Molly333 Wed 31-Aug-16 07:34:03

Been there so know how awful weekends are . I did - shopping at the weekend ,swimming lessons , a walk , the zoo my house work and garden . Basically I left all jobs to the weekend so I was busy ( hated being alone ) then when they were done we watched a movie and had treats , in the end weeks became great x

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