Hi. I mentioned before I'm a man, albeit I have a toddler niece who is teaching me how to be a good uncle. I say this because I won't post if people don't want me to based on not being a mum/parent.
Anyway I'm a relatively shy single man in my very late 30s. I have a little experience of relationships but not much. I have got friendly with a female colleague recently in a purely platonic way and she was asking me about this. For once I was honest and told her I'm not very confident and don't know how I come across. I really made a big effort with colleagues when I started at my current workplace 18 months ago. My friend said she thought I was really excellent at putting people at their ease, but this could in some ways be working against me in terms of flirting or starting a relationship. I suppose she is saying that making someone feel secure is good but too secure and you lack the edge necessary to create attraction. About 60% of me thinks this is PUA style drivel and I should just start telling some of the women I fancy the truth and lose my ego. But I'm not sure. Wonder if you've any thoughts?
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Bestofthebest · 27/08/2016 17:16
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