I need some help as I have no idea how to manage this situation.
My DD's have never met their dad. He made it clear he didn't want anything to do with my pregnancy as I refused to have a termination.
He was married and I was in an extremely vulnerable state when I met him. He was in a position of trust. Spun me the usual crap of having feelings for me and that his marriage was not good. I was naive and stupid and fell for it all.
I would appreciate no judgements please as it was 19 years ago and I made a huge mistake. I am fully aware of that.
I have been made aware through one of my closest friends (whom my DD's have a really close r'ship with) that one of my DD wants to make contact with him. She doesn't want to tell me as she doesn't want to hurt me. I know where he works and I have his email address. I know how this will pan out and he will want nothing to do with her. I know she is going to be bitterly hurt and rejected. She is such a loving kind girl and I am so worried about how to handle this and what to say to her to prepare her. I am mindful that the fallout could have a really bad impact on her as she struggle with self esteem and confidence having been bullied quite badly through school and college.
I have emailed him to make him aware but it was literally one line as I have no desire to engage in any dialogue with him at this point. He treated me very badly and was very unpleasant and bullying about having a termination. I have not had any response as yet to the email but it was sent very very recently. I have spoken to them both about him a few years ago but not much was said. They had a couple of questions and I answered them as best I could.
Please help.
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Seekingadvice123 · 20/08/2016 12:27
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