So, my 'partner' of three years is currently going through the process of getting divorced. He doesn't pay anything towards his costs of living with me, but paying 40 % of his salary to his wife. His 21 years old DS is in full time education & his Dd & GS live in the family home. With his support due to low earnings. His wife doesn't work, they have been separated for over 4 years but due to her MH issues the divorce is taking a long time. Quite accidently I found out that he had over 70k savings. I am a high earner, he is a high earner. Although I own my home & my 2 x school age children live with me 80% of,the time, should he be contributing to his living expenses & if,so,how much? I'm finding it very difficult to bring up as he is so lovely, kind & caring, yet since I found out that he had so much savings & I have been struggling to pay the bills I am feeling put out. How do I approach him& ask him to contribute when he hasn't contributed for two years? What reason can I give? My children are in private education & their father doesn't contribute but I think my partner thinks this is a good enough reason not to contribute himself. But because of all my out goings I have no money for holidays & clothes etc. am I right in thinking that he should contribute to his expenses, or should I continue to keep him until his divorce is through, I wouldn't want to do divert any money from his adult children. What I am asking is am I right now is asking him to contribute, what should,he be contributing to & how do I go about asking him to contribute, when I have been keeping him for so long?
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