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Facebook profile picture - what would you think?

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faffalotty Sat 13-Aug-16 12:36:17

Just after some opinions on a situation.

Scenario - woman on Facebook, profile pics and cover photos are always just her or her and her kids. She then changes her profile picture to a smiling selfie of her and a man. What would you think?

From another perspective - you know the man in the photo and know he's separating from his wife. What would you think then?

tryingtobestronger Sat 13-Aug-16 12:40:34

That they are in a relationship

MyKingdomForBrie Sat 13-Aug-16 12:41:32

New boyfriend, would be my first thought.

Sparklesilverglitter Sat 13-Aug-16 12:44:47

Either new realtionship/starting to get close or they are friends as men and women can be friends

TheNaze73 Sat 13-Aug-16 12:45:27

New relationship?

What's your angle op??

DoreenLethal Sat 13-Aug-16 12:49:09

Why what do you think then? Are you the wife?

ScarlettDarling Sat 13-Aug-16 12:50:54

They must be together surely?

LewisAndClark Sat 13-Aug-16 12:50:59

I'd think they were together.

Are you the wife?

Mooey89 Sat 13-Aug-16 12:51:23

New boyfriend. No doubt about it!

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Sat 13-Aug-16 12:52:24

Brand new sparkly relationship. Established relationships don't do that!!!

FilmaWlintstone Sat 13-Aug-16 12:52:39

He wants to end it and she wants to keep it going?

Jizzomelette Sat 13-Aug-16 12:54:08

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Cabrinha Sat 13-Aug-16 12:58:50

He's separating from his wife and is happy for her to show publicly that they're in a relationship.

If the split happened yesterday and the pic went up today, I'd assume an affair.

Why do you ask?

faffalotty Sat 13-Aug-16 12:59:17

Yes I'm the wife. I just didn't want to influence the answers.

He's still partly living at home until the house is sold. I said that her changing her profile picture to that is sending out the message that they're a couple. And that it's taking the piss.

Leading to our breakup he lied to me about where he was, when he was meeting her, but still claims they're not a couple.

I just wanted to know how it would look to an outsider.

Trills Sat 13-Aug-16 12:59:35

They are together.

Or she is very vain and thinks that is the best picture of her in existence and so she wants to show it to everyone even though it also has another person in it.

Also: boak.

Profile picture should be you. Just you.

tryingtobestronger Sat 13-Aug-16 13:02:03

Just for the the record, I'm pretty sure every one will be thinking they are dicks

Cabrinha Sat 13-Aug-16 13:08:13

You need to disengage. Easy for me to say, I know flowers

He's not going to admit he cheated.
Of course, you know he did. But you don't need confirmation from a lowlife.

If he is only partly living at home now, and your house is up for sake, then you are well and truly separated.

Therefore, you don't have any "right" to expect him not to be on her profile picture. Very few people consider it cheating up to the point of the decree absolute - because that takes so long. He is now able to date who he wants - as are you.

People will see it and assume they're together, and though they'll not want to get involved, everyone will think "yeah, right" if he claims it all happened after your split.

I'm sorry you're going through this - but I'm going to suggest hiding both their fb profiles flowers

HandyWoman Sat 13-Aug-16 13:09:30

Perhaps she has posted it to 'stake her claim' and it's for your benefit?

You are well shot of him and pity is the right emotion for her.

People will be privately thinking she/he/they are a couple of knobs.

Hopefully they are so in love that he'll bog off and live with her, leaving you in peace.

flowers for you.

ButtMuncher Sat 13-Aug-16 13:14:26

They're a couple - therefore, your ex is lying to you, still.

Agree with Cabrinha - disengage, hide profiles flowers

Missgraeme Sat 13-Aug-16 13:17:07

I hope u are divorcing him for adultery.

HandyWoman Sat 13-Aug-16 13:18:02

Also echo what Cabrinha said. Pretty much nobody is gonna come out and say he is a lowlife cheating scum, people will think it but not sat it, so be prepare for that. Don't wait for anyone to validate what you already know.

This is going to sound harsh - disengage from them both right now. Unfriend them, block them. Focus on you now...

It's very hard but really it's the best way to move forward and heal.

More flowers flowers

faffalotty Sat 13-Aug-16 13:33:15

I am divorcing for adultery - but for an affair he had a few years ago ( but only recently admitted to)

The reason I find it's taking the piss is that I'm still looking after the house and kids, he comes and goes as he please. He hasn't told his friends what's happened. I have at least now stopped putting his clothes in the washing machine - although I feel petty doing so

Cabrinha Sat 13-Aug-16 13:43:21

Not petty at all.

I lived with my cheating XH for 4 months whilst I bought another house. No laundry was done for him in that time! That said, I rarely did his laundry anyway - I'm not staff.

My XH actually had a bad thumb injury in that time and asked me to change the dressing. I told him to go into the surgery to see the nurse. He did.

Why is he coming and going as he pleases?

Sort out what your contact arrangements will be and instigate it now. If he's doing EOW and every Wed, then tell him he's expected home for the children then, as you might not be there.

MilkTwoSugarsThanks Sat 13-Aug-16 13:58:30

Sorry to be a damp squib, but adultery can be really hard to use for divorce unless your ex agrees.

It's very hard to prove (he might have told you, but he could deny telling you) and also if it happened a few years ago the court's line is that you accepted it (can't remember the exact wording, sorry).

Unreasonable behaviour is easier to do.

Cabrinha Sat 13-Aug-16 14:05:51

OP's grounds are fine. He only recently admitted to the previous affair. You have 6 months after the discovery to use it - his admitting it, in this case.

I agree it's very hard to use if he denies it. But if he's prepared to sign, then it's simpler than coming up with bullshit UB examples.

I told my XH that the solicitor advised it was simpler and therefore quicker just to sign for his adultery - and he did.

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