Hi , just thought I'd see what advice /support I can get on here , I'm new to this also .
I am a married mum to 3 boys , eldest is 15 with diagnosis of PDA/Autism , 13 year old and a 5 year old who has also been labelled with ASD.
To cut a long story short , my husband , who was our 15 year olds official carer has voiced that he doesn't want to be carer no more as he's 'sick of it ' 'sick of getting blame ' though he didn't live up to the role anyway as I did everything - it's just kept jobseekers off his back.
I have struggled to get husband to come to support groups , meetings , parenting classes to better our understanding and quality of life ... He just refused - Because of my frustration with this and how angry he gets with our 15 year old - I voiced that he's not living up to role as carer so hence why he gave it up because he's 'sick of me keep going on ' . He had never shown understanding /empathy for our sons difficulties which sometimes result in angry rages etc .... I feel if he had a better understanding of handling his son - it would help with our sons outbursts - instead of treating him as a naughty boy that needs diciplining .
Anyway - husbands had enough of everything though he does nothing and I am now being told that he doesn't want to be with me anymore and basically wants to chuck me out of our council house and take our 'naughty boy' with me . I reminded him we have 3 children who I refuse to split up and after speaking to housing officer I have been told that as much as the tenancy is in his name - the fact that we are married gives me the rights to stay .... There is more I could add to this - like the fact I believe how he has treated our son is a form of emotionally abuse . I don't have recordings or evidence just a 15 year old who feels unloved , not good enough and rejected by his dad . It's easy for people to tell me to leave .... It's not as simple as that with 3 kids and no where to go ? Anyone been in similar situation ? I don't think I can get legal aid in this situation unless I can prove the abuse - or what I class as abuse anyway . 13 year old doesn't ever do anything wrong to be on receiving end of his dad so he feels torn at the thought of a split and feels sorry for his dad if we all leave ? his dad's never done anything to upset him - he gets what he wants off his dad because he's a 'good boy '
All I'm guilty of is standing up to my husband and his negative angry mouth and advocating for my kids with disabilities ! Really upset and frustrated . As its the summer hols - I don't have the support of our family liaison officer as she works term time . Can I refer myself to social services ? Feel like I could do with the support and understanding to move forward from this because all I feel at the minute is trapped !
Thanks for taking the time to read .
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Shattered2013 · 04/08/2016 19:20
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