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Dating advise

(12 Posts)
christina2701 Fri 17-Jun-16 10:57:33

Hi all!

Looking for some advise. Recently starting see someone new. First date was coffee which went super well, next date was drink and cinema. Drink were first and I felt like he talked alot about himself, hardly any questions about me so just guessed he wasn't intrested. Cinema was next and he held my hand and them sort of cuddled me? Then walked me back to the car and kissed me good night. We've got another date planned for this weekend. I'm just not really sure what to make of it all? Is he intrested or not? Am I over thinking this? Please help!

category12 Fri 17-Jun-16 11:03:42

Are you interested in him?

TheNaze73 Fri 17-Jun-16 11:05:50

What do you think? Do you like him?

OneTiredMummmyyy Fri 17-Jun-16 11:06:30

I think at this stage it is too early to tell. See how your next date goes?

Do you like him?

LovePGtipsMonkey Fri 17-Jun-16 13:20:36

did he just talk about himself or was he answering your questions? if the latter than maybe he thought you prefer it that way. Give it another go and let him ask questions - or just say good-humouredly 'so are we going talk about me for a change?'. Some people are nervous on first dates and don't realise they are chattering on.

LovePGtipsMonkey Fri 17-Jun-16 13:23:05

fwiw I hate being questioned on online first dates - I prefer talking about common interests (and to get to know his personality and some facts about his life) than recite my whole biography or personal stuff. It should be balanced.

PanGalaticGargleBlaster Fri 17-Jun-16 13:32:01

Some people are often a bit nervous on first dates and end up getting verbal diarrhoea as they are terrified of awkward silences! Obviously if come date three he still only talking about himself you might have to reassess things. At the end of the day trust your gut instincts.

christina2701 Fri 17-Jun-16 16:59:46

I am yeah I just wasn't sure whether the lack of questions meant he wasn't in me?? I'm new to this whole dating thing!

chocshortbread Fri 17-Jun-16 18:01:32

I agree with pp men can get nervous or just be trying to 'advertise' themselves hence chatting non stop. What has always worked for me is just to start talking about myself in the same kind of way grin then the subject has been changed to you and they'll chat about you instead wink Hope the date goes well.

LadyStarkOfWinterfell Fri 17-Jun-16 18:13:08

Disagree with pp. men who blather about themselves and forget to ask you about you are boring blowhards. It's not likely to get better!

christina2701 Sat 18-Jun-16 08:55:10

So we're suppose to be meeting tonight... He said he'd let me know because he wasn't sure whether he had to look after his kids. How long should I wait before he confirms today? Should I message him or wait?

grobagsforever Sat 18-Jun-16 11:37:47

I'd wait - how prompt he is about getting in touch and confirming plans will give you the measure of him. When dating someone with kids you have to be prepared to accept last minute cancellations but these should be accompanied by as much warning as he can manage and an apology.

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