I have concerns about a friend. I know that her husband isn't physically, verbally or financially abusive, but I think he is quite controlling and I'm not sure if this spills over into emotional abuse. I'd like some opinions please if that's ok?
He works shifts, and whenever he is not at work, he expects my friend to be with him. He does not like her seeing friends or going anywhere when he's not at work, and if she arranges to do so, he makes thugs unpleasant for her by expressing his disapproval, then phoning/texting her a lot while she's out, often manipulating her into coming home before she has planned to.
If he is at work, he doesn't ask her not to go out, but he will still text/phone her several times while she's out and manipulate her into going home early.
He often sulks or strops if she talks to someone more than him when they're out and about and is very possessive. He treats her like a possession, not somebody he loves.
I'm aware that this is on the milder side of the spectrum, but t makes me so sad and angry to see my friend being manipulated and treated like a possession by the person who's supposed to care about her most. Am I right in thinking that this is an healthy relationship or am I being over sensitive about my friend?
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Is this controlling, abusive or OK?
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thelastpersonthereis · 08/06/2016 13:32
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