Been together for 13 years, married for most of that, and for the longest time my husband avoided sex. It drove me mad, he just didn't want it. After years of frustration and threats he went to the doctors to discover he has low testosterone. It's now treated and his sex drive is back! But it's as though he's left it too long and now I don't want it. I just don't. Sex feels like something he wants to do to me somehow. He doesn't seem interested in initiating things in any sort of a way that I might like, he just moans that I don't like him playing with my breasts. That's all he seems to want to do, and for me that's a massive turn off. It's been over a year since we had sex, we are in separate rooms as he smokes and I hate the smell, and also I can't stand being pawed by him, he has such heavy hands.
We went for sexual therapy and it was to do with creating intimacy, giving each other back rubs etc but it just seemed to create even more friction between us, so we stopped going.
Can this ever get better?
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Jimjamjimmyjam · 06/06/2016 15:02
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