My confused mind is scrambled.

[needhelpandadvice]

Cant find my other posts but H and I split Oct last year, things weren't good for a while, mainly lack of communication resulting in silences, moods etc both sides but more him.

I met someone else, he had been a friend for a while, its nothing serious, more company for both of us, but I can not get H out of my mind!


DD doesn't want us to try again as she remembers how things were before he left. But I desperately miss him. There is a huge part of me that is wanting to ask him does he want to try again.

The the other guy, complete opposite to H, very relaxed, maybe if I give it time H will be out my mind.

Should I tell H how I feel?

[CharlotteCollins]

No, don't say anything to H/XH.

Don't do anything with new guy either, that wouldn't be fair on him.

Write down (on here or elsewhere) the reasons you left him. They were probably very good reasons, and it doesn't sound like anything has changed. It's just that you're only remembering the positives. Hence writing things down, because it's a useful reminder when you're feeling weak.

[needhelpandadvice]

I have written things down, I also play a part in the whole thing, I think?

Everything is so clouded. I know we are separated but it terrifies me he will meet someone, so stupid really.

I feel so ashamed and bad for the new guy but also guilty for my H.