I am currently having to sell the family home after XH left me for OW. Now divorced and I got the family home , mortgage free, as part of my divorce settlement. However I can't afford to stay here as it's a big old cottage and very expensive to heat, maintain etc. And a big part of me wants to make a fresh start. I have 3DC , age 23,21 and 17. DD 21, doesn't live at Home as she's in the forces but still considers this her home. It's the only home the children have ever had so it is a big wrench for them ..... I put the house on the market expecting it to take ages to sell and it sold in 3 days! Now I have to find a new home, and I am struggling, I am trying to include the DC by sharing house details , taking them on viewings etc. But it's become very clear they all want different things, places to live different types of house and now I find myself struggling to please everyone, feeling like I'm pleasing no one and not knowing which way to turn.......whichever house I think I like, one of them hates it! I know they're struggling to accept what happened and it's hard for them to leave their family home. Any house we move to will be a downsize from our lovely home because it has to be affordable but how can I get them onside? I thought making a fresh start would be exciting, instead it's just upsetting me more and more. Any advice from you all be gratefully received. Have any of you been in the same situation? What did/would you do?
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startingover231 · 01/06/2016 22:32
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