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Still thinking about the ex!

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Greenyogagirl · 28/05/2016 19:46

My ex husband and I got divorced 6 years ago. it was an abusive relationship and I know I don't want to be back in that place. We have a child that he isn't allowed contact with and everything was sorted through courts etc I don't love him, I don't fancy him, I don't want to contact him but why do I still think about him! I even wrote him a letter writing about our son with a photo that I won't send! Is it that I'm lonely? It's doing my head in!

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Buggers · 28/05/2016 19:51

How long were you together for? Of course you will still think about him as his your sons dad so it's only natural, what are the thoughts if you don't mind me asking? Is it just wondering what his doing sort of thing?

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Greenyogagirl · 28/05/2016 20:11

We met aged 12 at school, lost touch at 16 and to be honest had a whirlwind romance at 19, together properly for less than 2 years, he was in the army and I was pregnant so the marriage was half just because we wanted to live together as a family on barracks.
Yeah like I hope he's ok and got his head together. I wonder if he's gone back in the army and think about what we thought we'd have compared to what we do have.
Nobody thinks their marriage will end in divorce or their kids will be part of a court case do they!