And what are your tips if you have a good relationship with yours?
Bit of background - I am 44 and grew up with just my mum. The relationship has always been rocky and although I adored her as a child she couldn't discipline me at all and had very shouty/violent outbursts.
To cut a very long story short, our relationship deteriorated over the years (she has personality disorder and possible Diogenes syndrome). She is now in her 80s and I can't see things improving sadly. I have (sort of) accepted this and put all my energy into my family (dh and 3 dds).
Here's the thing - I read so much on MN and other places of poor mother-daughter relationships and I am so scared of getting it wrong with mine. My dds are 15, 13 and 9 and so far I have fantastic relationships with them and put all my efforts into being the best mother I can be. But I worry a lot, probably unnecessarily. My dds are generally happy girls but they do compare each other in terms of doing things and time spent with me and dh. How do I know they're not going to harbour long term resentments about being treated unfairly?
Because I grew up without siblings, I just don't know what's 'normal' in terms of sibling rivalry. I try very hard to be fair and sometimes spend time with each one individually.
So people who end up on the stately homes threads or have gone NC - things have got pretty bad to be that way right?
This post probably sounds a bit mad but I just want to avoid history repeating itself and nuture good relationships with my dds into their adulthood.
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Do *most* women get on with their mothers?
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Dancergirl · 12/05/2016 09:30
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