So I've been with my partner for 2 years during which time we've both had seperate incomes and operated independently (we live together) I've never ever shared money with a partner, I've always thought it's better to operate independently so you are never accountable to someone else for what you do with your cash. However, I'm now 11 weeks pregnant and now we're going to be a family so we'll have to operate together? Just how do you do it? What works well? I don't think I could put all my money with his, I feel like it'd be letting go of my independence.
The other issue is that before I go on maternity leave I'll have saved up enough money to personally pay for our entire house deposit (partner has no spare income at the moment as he's paying off debts) I feel a bit strange about being the lone provider for the deposit as when I embark on motherhood I'll never work enough hours to save like I have whereas partner is now training for a new career so will have far more money at his disposal In the future but house will be sorted. I'm concerned that I'll feel resentful about the situation, or maybe that's because I'm so used to thinking about myself only? how do you share finances and make the transition from 'me' to 'we'?
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Twinklelittlestar1 · 10/05/2016 13:13
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