My inlaws have been completely overbearing since my first child was born 7 years ago. I tried as far as possible to let them see the grandchildren whenever they wanted but however much they saw them it was never enough. It was all about 'helping' - 'do you need any help' 'we can come and help' I got to dread each school holiday as they always wanted the children (alone of course) when we wanted some time on our own.When they did see them it was (and is) as if I am invisible . I then got a serious illness and was in hospital for a few months. At one point I was given a 50/50 chance of survival so I am pretty traumatised. They said and did some unforgivable things in that time. When I was ill it was as if I could see clearly and I realised what a toxic relationship it was. So since then we have gone very LC - a few low key visits a few times a year. No more overnight stays anymore as I just simply don't trust them anymore. The problem is that they just can't accept this 'new' relationship. Whenever we see them they constantly ask 'ok so when can we have the children for a week'. The last time we saw them my FIL got drunk and told me that he was coming to take the children. I have been able to keep calm but I worry that I will end up falling out with them. They are retired, live in an isolated area and seem to spend their whole lives waiting for us to ask for 'help'.
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