Been seeing a lovely bloke I met online for 10 months now. I have 2 DC, so does he, similar ages. We've been talking recently about whether to introduce them.
I've been split from exH for 2.5 years, he's been split from his ex for nearly 2 years and I'm the first person he's dated.
He knows I dated other people before him, but he's never asked about it and I've never told him any details. In actual fact, I got into quite a serious, in hindsight a bit of a rebound relationship, only 2 months after splitting from exH. He met the DC, who really liked him, but it all fizzled out after about 5 months. Nothing bad happened, the DC were fine, but I've always kicked myself for introducing him too soon. And the DC still mention him fondly every now and then, despite the fact it's over a year since they've seen him!
So, I think it's inevitable that if I introduce the DC to current boyfriend, at some point they will mention 'oh, mummy used to have a boyfriend called X...'. So I guess I need to tell him first. But I'm just worried he'll judge me. He's done everything just right- waited a year before dating, waited 8 months before even talking about introducing DC to each other.... I did the complete opposite!
Should I tell him? Or just wait and see if the DC mention it and then brush it off like it's no big deal?
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why am I so nervous about telling boyfriend about previous relationship?
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mushroomsontoast · 13/04/2016 19:01
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