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Not feeling sad for getting divorced

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BackgroundMusic · 08/04/2016 17:34

I'm not feeling too sad. No children involved. I have all other emotions but no sadness. Argued for a good few years and it seems like a natural progression. The relationship has got a lot better since I have made my mind up as I'm not chasing the unachievable. Is this normal?

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ALaughAMinute · 08/04/2016 17:40

Yes, perfectly normal, especially when you know you've made the right decision.

I got my decree absolute a couple of weeks ago. I felt a bit flat at first but once I realised I could finally get away from the abusive bastard I was over the moon!

Good luck!

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MrTCakes · 08/04/2016 23:02

I wasn't sad, just relieved it was over. I cried the day my decree absolute came through because it meant I could move on to better things.

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ohforfoxsake · 09/04/2016 00:04

I read something somewhere about
Marriages not having failed but being 'complete'. I like to think of my divorce as my marriage being complete. I don't feel sad at all. Hurt, yes, angry, yes etc but ending it was the right thing.

It's good to look ahead.

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BackgroundMusic · 09/04/2016 13:50

Thanks
Hope I keep my resolve for a better future. I have told as many people to be embarrassed to back off.

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crazycatdad · 09/04/2016 13:55

You weren't happy. No kids involved. Where's the downside to get sad about?

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BackgroundMusic · 09/04/2016 14:07

I don't know, I thought I will feel the loss. Here I am assuring others that I will be better off without my husband. I'm so practical that it is baffling my family and friends. I'm a bit surprised myself. But I'm good at blocking my emotions to make tough calls. But did think marriage breakdown is supposed to a pretty big deal.

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ohforfoxsake · 09/04/2016 15:22

I had one day when I cried and cried and cried. I can only describe it as grief.

I don't miss him, he wasn't engaged in our lives, he was part of ours but we weren't part of his. He hid behind 'work' it suited him as was convenient. There is no sense if loss here, not even with the DCs. He was ineffective and didn't value what he had. The most I can muster is a shrug of my shoulders in indifference.

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wonderfultonight · 09/04/2016 15:51

How long were you married for? Was it your decision to get divorced?

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Cabrinha · 09/04/2016 16:22

I felt euphoric for a good few weeks. Over the moon. Involuntary smiles when I told people - couldn't keep the grin off my face! Confused people Good riddance to bad rubbish. You don't have to feel sad.

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BackgroundMusic · 09/04/2016 16:55

Married for 5 years, I'm apparently too much of a feminist for my own good. Never mind, good to know I'm not the exception. Feel relieved in his absence. I don't want to rely on him only to be disappointed later to have relied on him.

Good point Cabrinha