Posted before but NC, since being with dh I've lost all my confidence and am a shadow of my former self, money lies, deleting messages etc has turned me into a paranoid, insecure person. I've put on about 2 stone because I'm so unsatisfied, sex is terrible just him getting what he wants and that's it. He's ridiculously nice to me and really has tried to make up for things but I think too much damage has been done. The past two weeks I've decided to do something about it, I've gone on a diet and stopped drinking. I'm trying to build myself up to be stronger as at the minute I can't leave. I've been doing my own thing and not relying on him. This hit home when we were at one of his work events and a fair few people were saying how did you get a wife like that did you pay for her? I was really annoyed by the comment and dh was offended but he says people have commented a lot before saying I'm a lot above his 'average' I thought why am I doing this to myself? He's treat me like absolute shit in the past, I can't get over this I'm so annoyed.
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Doesn't sound like he's worth your time IMO, but obviously all we have here is a snapshot.
Re the comments about him buying you (!) just ignore. No normal respectful person would say such a thing. Pay it no attention. Apart from to hear that you are clearly worth a lot more than you are currently getting out of your relationship.
Be yourself. Get yourself back on track to who you were regardless of him. Find your inner Beyoncé!
Be what you are despite him. Then if you do want to make it work, use your inner strength to expect what you deserve.
If he doesn't give it to you, he's not the man for you 
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