DB and I have been NC on and off with our Dad for the last 10 years or so.
He remarried and raised our stepsiblings as his own as their Dad wasn't on the scene.
DB and I always came last in his list of priorities, his new wife is very controlling and sees us as some sort of threat. She was also violent to me when I was a teenager and her son assaulted me.
It's been easier emotionally to distance ourselves from him.
In the last year DB got married and is expecting a child, I had my first DC and I'm expecting my 2nd so I thought this would be an ideal time to reach out to our Dad and build bridges but his behaviour is still odd and cagey, backing up the reason we are NC. He also made the comment that he puts so much effort in with our stepsiblings DCs to make up for being a crappy Dad to DB and I, I found this pretty hard to hear as we are still alive and kicking yet he makes no effort to see us or his grandchildren, it's like we've been written off so he can start afresh.
What are your views? I'm very reluctant to start a relationship with him again as he puts in zero effort and I don't want him coming in and out of my DCs lives like he has me and my DBs. It seems easier to just move on. My DB says he cannot be bothered with him anymore but I know he is really hurt by his reluctance to make any effort with us. Has anyone been through anything similar who can offer any advice?
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Do I carry on NC with DF?
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Ellarose85 · 02/04/2016 09:11
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