I will try to keep this short and succinct.
My DP and I have been together for 10yrs next week, we have a 1yr old together.
My DP has always been wonderful to me, helped me massively when my dad passed away and is a great father.
Over the ten years we have had arguments of course, some worse than others, but have mainly escalated because DP suffers from depression and with that comes extreme anxiety. He has been like this since he was a child. Finally when I was pregnant he saw the doctor and they prescribed him a fairly high dosage of anti-depressants. He was on them for about 12 months and came off them Feb of this year. He is now taking a herbal medication called HT 5 or something.
Anyway last night we had an almighty argument he called me all sorts of names from a fucking cow to a cunt and said I am just like my mother (this struck a nerve because my mum was horrid to me as I was growing up, as he well knows) the name calling started because apparently i spoke to him like shit and I always do. This is news to me. I know I can be a frantic when I'm stressed with work and I know I have brought this home in the past but everything is fine at the moment, my recollection of events is very different from his. So much so I am started to think that I am mad.
Today I am getting the silent treatment, he said something to DD and I thought he was talking to me so I said pardon, and he just said I'm not talking to you.
This is happening perhaps 3-4 times a month, and has since the new year. I'm treading on egg shells and i don't know if it's me or him that is the source of tension. I can't carry on like this. Today I am convinced I need to leave him, but I don't know if that's me just being dramatic in the aftermath of an argument or if I mean it?
Can anyone offer me some kind of perspective?
He is such a lovely man and we have spent most of our lives together, I don't doubt I love him, just whether I like him enough to sort this out
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JeanGenie23 · 01/04/2016 11:11
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