Not posted for a long time but need a bit of help from you lovely vipers...
I've just broken up with a guy who looking back was a bit of a headfuck. I'm getting there, have great support and friends etc. But I'm in that horrible phase where you look back and question everything and there is this incident that is bugging me from a few months back. Combination of, I saw a really strange message from his ex (by accident, she did message him a lot, it was odds on that I would see some of them) and some condoms going missing (not that I keep count, but you kind of have a sense of where the pack is)..
I questioned him at the time about the message. He said pretty convincingly he didn't know, it was just weirdness on her part. And I do have independent evidence of that, that she isn't totally at her best at the moment (no wonder, she went out with my headfuck ex for three years; full disclosure, he left her for me. I know, I know...) And he is a crap liar, wouldn't even bother to lie normally. So I left it.
But I think he cheated with her didn't he :/ I suppose I care in a getting-over-it way. As I say, in that horrible stage when I need to analyse everything. The message she sent, I can't remember exactly but it was along the lines of "you have behaved so badly and so have I". The phrasing was like it was a current thing, I know that. He and I had been together 15 months or so at that point.
And I saw a mutual friend tonight who (to my surprise) was totally on my side, who said he had cheated with all his previous gf. She knew of no evidence he cheated with me though.
Don't know what I'm looking for really. Validation that I wasn't going mad maybe? I mean, I've never met this woman, it would be a stretch to believe she was that delusional, right? I won't get any closure on that subject or any other from him, I know.
Sorry for length of this, this is such a small thing compared to what other people are going through. At least I am out of it!
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I think he cheated :(
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MadBusLady · 31/03/2016 22:08
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