Dp and I have been together 4 years. I wasn't interested to start with but he persevered and we ended up together, can't quite remember when things changed but I did end up liking him. When he moved in we rowed a lot but it seemed to settle again. Then I discovered he was messaging his ex, just on the edge of top flirty and being ok. Questioned him on it but didn't say I'd seen the messages and he claimed they were harmless chat. This happened again last summer. We bought a house together in November and since then everything has been truly awful. He let's me deal with everything, washing, cleaning, food shopping, you name it whilst working full time. If there is no food in the fridge I get asked what there is to eat like I'm his mum. He tries to change me, I'm pretty firm in my views on a number of things and he just expects me to agree with him and not put my opinion forward and if I do then I'm being argumentative. He also has a major issue with the fact I wouldn't take his surname on marriage. When he's nice he's lovely but I feel like the times when that happens are becoming rarer and he's almost treating me like staff.
When we bought the house i put the deposit forward, which was around 50%, then I've paid for the refurbishment work so far out of the rest of the money I have. He has paid the whole mortgage since we moved in (so around 6k).
What do I do, do I try to get things back to when they were ok? If not then how do I get out of this situation. I'd really rather not lose the house.
He has NO idea I'm so unhappy
Please be gentle with me
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Veryconfusedandunhappy · 27/03/2016 12:18
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