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divorce after stroke

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afterstroke Mon 21-Mar-16 21:28:07

I got married in EU country in August with partner who I know and live with for 10 years , we have 7 y.o. daughter. After 4 months, in December I gor a stroke, which affected my moving talking writting etc. I needed to learn everything again, I'm on ESA now, stroke made me disabled. \it will need a time to get to 100% who I was and I could. Anyway my husband was lovely only for 2 weeks in hospital, when I got home and start having recovery, therapists and learn everything he started to calling me bad names, did not answer to my requests and spending time with neighbours , where he "relaxes" himself. The reson of my stroke were: stress, nerves and spray paintings which made my blood thicker. I use to aint with my husband. He was still paintins, even he knew that the doctor from neurology unit told it was a reason. He did not want to stop, so \i warned him couple of times and called the police. After this he moved out to neighbours, took a loan from a bank ( we had seperate accounts) - I was 7 weeks after stroke then. I was trying to explain him about the stroke , but he told me he knows everything from internet, I tried to make a therapy, but he told me "no" and finally he moved out for good - 10 weeks after my stroke. Meanwile he told me he will diverce me, which I agree now - I has in double hell thanks to him , but he doesn't agree it's his fault. He did not pay any money to me and after a stroke I did not receive any money as a self-employed, he did not want to give me his statements from a bank to let me claim for even ESA. I needed to wait when he move to have tenant agreement only for me and borrowed money from mum, cause I did not receive any money also my husband took a lot of things when he moved, he told me "these are mine I pay for it". He is also addicted to pornography, we had a lot of fight about this, he never wanted to go to specialist either.

fusspot66 Mon 21-Mar-16 21:36:20

Dear Afterstroke,
What a crappy thing to happen to you and to then be abused emotionally and financially. I am so impressed by your positive attitude to recovery. flowers
I think.you should ask for this to.be moved to relationships where more knowledgeable people will.see it - this is done by reporting your own post and asking for it to be moved. I think you will find Woman's Aid are very helpful. There is a link to them on Relationshipa but I will look for the no. and email for you. Sorry you.are being treated like this.

fusspot66 Mon 21-Mar-16 21:41:44

Here's their website
www.womensaid.org.uk/

afterstroke Mon 21-Mar-16 21:50:37

Thank U smile

Doyoufeelluckypunk Mon 21-Mar-16 22:05:04

Are you living near to any of your family now?

springydaffs Mon 21-Mar-16 22:09:31

So glad you got rid of him!

So sorry to hear you've been through such a tough time - but agree with fusspot that you have a lot of strength in you that shines out in your OP. Do get in touch with Womens Aid who will really help you make a way forward practically and legally. You can call them on 0808 2000 247 but call them at night because the phone is often busy during the day.

Keep going. You've already achieved so much in such a short time flowers

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