I and ExH ended 4yrs ago and he moved out 3yrs ago. Divorce details finally agreed this week which means decree absolute probably within the next 2 months.
This is good. He wasn't great. He chose alcohol over me and the children.
Is it normal at this point to be, whilst thankful it's all coming to an end, also a bit confused? I find myself wanting to text him to ask if it was worth it? If, choosing not to stop drinking has made him happier than he thinks he could have been if he had stopped drinking and stayed?
I also find myself thinking of all the memories I have now lost. I can never now celebrate my ruby wedding anniversary. He is the one I was with the day the twin towers went down, when Princess Diana died. Those shared memories I will never have with anyone else. But also how sad is it that the days our children were born aren't so precious because he wasn't so great - pissed when DD was born for example.
So, it's good, and anyone who remembers my threads when I didn't know what to do - thankyou - because ending it was right,
It is still just sad, personally, that my marriage has truly ended. That is sad. Is it ok and normal to feel this? He is an odd abusive chap in that there are many times when he is honestly so great, and I think if the chips were down and I needed him he would be there for me, he just couldn't manage that on a day-to-day basis
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LalaDipsey · 13/03/2016 20:42
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