In brief, 28 weeks pregnant and was left at 20 weeks pregnant. Ex is now with another woman (from 23 weeks) We already had a toddler together.
I think, considering whats happened that I'm doing quite well! I'm focusing on myself and the steps I need to take to provide a stable future for my girls etc.
However I still have bad days, today is one of those as I have been overthinking again! It's probably just a combination of things I have been reading on mumsnet lately but I think I need a bit of hand-holding today!
I don't know why I have suddenly started thinking this...but he told me the reason he left was that he didn't love me anymore, just as a Mother to his daughter and we weren't really a couple anymore.
I understand this is a line often used between people and no-one should really remain in a loveless relationship for the sake of children, people deserve to be happy.
I also get it's easy to blame the man because he's dumped all his responsibilities on me but today I can't seem to shake the thought of
"Was I that awful to live with that he couldn't stick around for his unborn baby?!"
I didn't think we were that unhappy tbh, maybe I was blind/naive to it? I know he has done a shitty thing really and rather now than when she was born, as I'm sure that would've probably been worse.
But I can't help but think surely it must have been a big decision to walk out on his little family and why would he have done that lightly unless things were really, really bad between us?
I know I am better off without and wouldn't take him back anyway now, after what I have gone through but I suppose I hadn't thought about it this way before?!
It's easy to judge a man badly for dumping his kids but would he have really left if things were like I thought?
Sorry to sound whingy, I shouldn't care about his side of things. As I said above, today is just a "struggle day" and need a big of hand-holding xx
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clashofclanswidow · 02/03/2016 17:23
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