Hi there. I used to have a mumsnet account but abandoned it after the site hacking business so I've set up a new one. So, this is my first post sort of but I'm an avid reader. I was in two minds whether to post this in parenting or here but felt there may be more people with experience of this here.
Anyway, my DH is totally NC with his father (a chronic and mean alcoholic). He knows nothing about our lives and has never met DC. Obviously there is a long backstory to this but it's not mine to share.
My DC is now 4 and for the first time has started to ask where DH's daddy is. We're at an absolute loss with how to answer her. I can think of many things not to say and I understand that you build it up over the years as the child's understanding improves but we just don't know remotely what to say just now. I'm reluctant to say describe him as "unkind" or "bad" in case DC thinks it might happen to him/her too for bad behaviour. For context, DC has grandparents on my side but none on DH's side.
So, wise ones, how would you answer "Where's Daddy's daddy?" in this situation.
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Telling young child about estranged grandparent
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acowcalledhamish · 27/02/2016 21:29
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