Ok so...I've been married for nearly 5years, meet my husband when I was 17 (10yrs ago).
We have 2 children together, 3.5yr old and 1yr old.
I am struggling to know whether I should stay with my husband or not. Nothing inparticular has happened, I am just totally and utterly fed of up of how he treats me and sometimes the children. He is work obsessed, can't really be bothered to do anything for the family, constantly on his phone, never helps with children.
He shouts at me regularly, talks to me like I'm abit of dirt. Makes me cry regularly (so much so my son now says 'why does daddy make mummy cry?')
He picks the children up from childcare twice a week but does nothing with them, I still have to come home from work and do all the chores, he normally just lefts kids sleep and then they don't go to bed in the evening (something I have to do on my own)
He has a power over me, if i go out with friends (and children) he texts me asking when I'll be home, and if I'm late I dread going home as he will be angry. I've always got to be home why he gets home from work.
I have to ask him to watch children while I do a bit of housework, he constantly moans, or leaves children to cry, and only gives me about 30mins.
He doesn't know anything about our money (I deal with everything) but has the cheek to want to know where money has gone (mostly on bills) sometimes wants to check bank statements to check where i have been.
Also moans that I don't earn enough. I have a decent job but only work part time due to wanting to spend time with our children - he wouldn't want them in childcare all the time.
He never wants to do family activities like helping children ride bikes, paint, play in garden, go to park etc... I love this but he won't do it and I think children are missing out.
He smokes, he goes outside to do this but each time he has a cig he is on the phone to someone for about 20mins( normally his boss).
Also checking his phone, even at the dinner table.
When I ask him why he is always on phone he just tells me to shut up.
There is more and more but can't think right now. I sometimes think life would be so much easier just me and the kids.
Advice please!!!
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fedupwife123 · 26/02/2016 19:56
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