First time poster here, so bear with me...
Been together with OH for about 6 years, and have 2 kids - 3 and 18 months. About a year ago OH was diagnosed with depression, but things were difficult before then, and really difficult after. I feel like we've been on a bit of a rollercoaster for ages now, and I'm tired of it.
We've had issues around division of housework for ever it seems, with me trying to get him to do more, and him saying that he thinks he does enough (even his mum thinks he doesn't do enough). We've had issues around the way he speaks to the kids, especially youngest as he has been bad-tempered around them - probably as a result of the depression, but it just cuts me in two. I also get up in the nights when kids wake up (still every night ) but don't feel like he picks up the slack to give me a break.
I've called him on all of this when it happens, he apologises, things get better for a bit, then back to normal/worse again.
I asked him to give me some space a few weeks ago - he planned to go away for about 10 days, then came back after 3 saying he wanted to sort things out. Just felt like it was all about what he wanted and not respecting my need for some space. He's now trying really hard, doing more around the house, relationship with kids is much better. But I just can't seem to move forward, or even find the energy to try. I just feel like I've had enough - and also really pissed off as if it was that easy to do, then why not do it earlier. I know I should want to get this sorted, but still feel like I need some time to get my head together. He says he won't go anywhere though.
Just wondered if anyone had any words of wisdom for someone who is a bit stuck, and not sure what to do for the best.
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passthesalt · 26/02/2016 08:13
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