Do you think if you are in love with someone that you should tell them? Or sometimes is it better to keep it in?
We were seeing each other casually, I broke it off after three months because I felt like I felt like he went into it asking for casual and I knew I'd fallen in love.
I know he would see me in a heartbeat if I asked to and that he misses me and is sad I am gone, but that might just be down to liking me a lot and having a strong physical attraction - whereas I am head over heels in love with him. I have at times felt like he has strong feelings for me as well, in certain things he has said and done.
I haven't let on that I am in love with him and ended it quite brusquely telling him I had decided to date someone else who was looking for something more serious and that we were in diferrent places in our lives. He barely responded, so I think I did hurt him. We haven't seen each other for about three weeks now. He did message me and try and set up a time to meet and talk, which I nearly did, but I felt like I would just wind up back in the casual situation again and it was better to keep my distance.
All the distance / dates with other people is doing is making me realise how completely madly in love with him I am and I don't know what to do.
He knows the reason we split up was that I wanted more than he did (in general) because as long as I have known him he has said he is not ready for a relationship with anyone but he has no idea how much I feel for him.
Telling him I love him leaves me with an 95% chance he doesn't feel the same way, and also scaring him maybe. Leaving him alone leaves me with the alternative of keeping my dignity but maybe missing out if there is any chance he feels the same.
Or...if he does feel the same, will he realise too and contact me? I do feel in my gut like he (a) genuinely is in a place of not wanting a relationship for a myriad of reasons that I do understand (b) would definitely want one with me if he could (c) has feelings for me that go beyond casual - but I don't think his feelings have run away in the ame way mine have.
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Should you always tell someone you love them or not?
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sallyfireworks · 08/02/2016 22:43
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