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So I'm very close to my cousin Kevin- he's like a brother. Kevin married a lovely girl from Peru, Sofia, and they live abroad with their six children.They have built up a successful business together from nothing, making hand-crafted cuckoo clocks. Over the years we've become really good friends with Sofia, and we visit each other, or see them at family events at least a couple of times a year. I feel like Sofia is as much family as Kev.
Sadly Kevin has found out that Sofia has been having a very long term affair with a cuckoo dealer and they are divorcing. Everyone is devastated. She is begging him to forgive her but the betrayal was too great and they are currently not able to speak to each other calmly although they are somehow managing to keep the business going. I have spoken a lot to Kev and he's having a tough time but I haven't spoken to Sofia yet.
Now it just happens that dh and I live in the small village where the annual international symposium of cuckoo clocks is held and every year for the last ten years Sofia has come to stay with us for the week to exhibit clocks. She's booked to come and exhibit as usual this year.
So here's the WWYD.
Do I contact Sofia and let her know how sorry I am that she shagged someone else for many years but that we still love her and want to remain friends?
Do I invite her to stay for the symposium as usual (or is that stabbing Kevin in the back)?
Do I stay completely clear of the whole sorry mess, say nothing and risk bumping in to Sofia in the village pub?
Or do I show total loyalty to my lovely innocent anguished cousin Kev and turn a cold shoulder to Sofia?
Has anyone stayed friends with a sibling's adulterous ex? Has it caused hurt and family ructions?
I'd love advice on this one.
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Staying friends with a sibling's adulterous ex? Anyone done it? WWYD?
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amoamasamat · 06/02/2016 23:13
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