Wont do a long story here. In a nutshell:
Partner went into business with someone who used to work for him around about the time we got together. At the time we got together I was a year out of a divorce from a 14 year marriage and didn't trust any of those little warnings (in my insides) that were flagging up around this lady.
7 years on and weve split twice both for 6 months ish at a time. Usually to do with the amount he works and how absorbed he gets in new projects at a cost to us his family and uncomfortable I feel trying to be part of his world when it comes t the business. Its a restaurant.
Last year...the old restaurant was loosing money after its first few years of success. They decided to close up before it became a point of no return look for a different location and a new concept. It meant he moved approx. 2 hours away. He made this decision without me, we split. The new business meant he would be moving out and over there.
Its doing really well and he has jumped through many hoops this past couple of months. I wouldn't speak to him at first. We laid all cards on table and one deal breaker for me was that he has to have a family life with us, we have to beable to be part of his world and he has to be part of my world. On this he asked me to visit the new place and said that I would be made to feel welcome.
We got back earlier today. Had a fab time, we had dinner with some friends, did some sight seeing etc. His business partner however blanked me several times. I wasn't expecting us to be bossom buddies but my plan was to do the...saying hello and hope you had a good Christmas, place looks really good type of thing. Nope. She walked past me at one point, I said Hi place looks really good...she carried on not even looking saying thanks. Those alarm bells and red flags are ringing and waving again. I don't know what it is with this woman. Theres something just not right
She is a massive part of my DP's life...an older lady...very heavy set with strong eye make up. Don't feel they have cheated but somethings not right.
Im wondering if this is a deal breaker....I don't think I can have her in my life in anyway shape or form. Shes never accepted that my Dp has a family. Hes always said they are like brother and sister. I think if I carry on trying to go over there...Ill get upset in the end and pull her up. (Already done this and it doesn't end well. She says his personal life is nothing to do with her). I see arguments ahead. I don't think I can do this relationship again. I do love him. Something just isn't right when it comes to this lady
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RedFlagsandAlarmBells · 06/02/2016 17:50
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