My husbands brothers and sisters frequently change their mind to whether they are prepared to talk to me or not, without ever explaining why or giving a reason. Sometimes they resolve the problem and start talking to me out of the blue, but I am left pretty confused as to what is going on. Any time I see them, I have no idea who will be prepared to talk to me.
Due to this, I don't see them much. The last time was at my DS2s baptism. Nobody from my husbands side of the family had even uttered the words congratulations to me. DS2 was 1 year old. Out of the three of my husbands sibling who came, only one spoke to me nicely. One was very aggressive saying 'he (ds2) doesn't know me now, but he will get to know me, don't you worry' and the third said nothing at all, despite me starting to try a conversation. I spent most of the time crying in the toilets alone.
Anyway, we have recently moved to nicer house. My husbands sibling who didn't speak a word to me now wants to come and stay with us, bringing her own husband and son. I have had another child since I was last ignored by them at DS2's baptism.
Tonight I asked my husband how this was going to work. I don't want to come between him and his siblings, but are they really going to come to my house and ignore me?
Apparently, he will be dammed if he keeps quiet and dammed if he speaks up, and somehow any bad feeling that comes from this is all my fault.
I don't know what I'm asking. I just want to say - fucks sake!
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Ickythumpsmum · 30/01/2016 23:29
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