Evening all,
Very quick story for you. Basically I find like I'm doing everything round the house and I don't know if I'm flogging a relationship that's ultimately doomed. I've been with my partner for 8 years, not married, no kids. We both work full time, I earn about double they do. In our early 30s.
Various examples:
- They always go through a stressy huff whenever cleaning the house was mentioned. To ease things over I pay for a cleaner.
- They never cook other than perhaps once a month. I buy 90% of the food.
- Whenever money or bills are mentioned they get all stressy and uptight. I've found myself paying extra to avoid confrontation. All of the admin etc. is done by me. This doesn't stop them going out and spending 100s of pounds on personal items.
- Any one off house stuff like taking pets to the vet gets passed off as being too inconvenient or "I don't think I can manage the cat box". etc.
- We never, ever, ever have sex. Once a year perhaps.
- I find myself putting myself out to please them and avoid confrontation. This leads to me stressing myself out I think when I should just say no.
- Various frustrations that when the lease on our old house was expiring I said that I wasn't sure we should be together any more. Without asking they made an offer to rent a new house for more than I could really afford. I kind of ended up being whisked along and now we've been in the new place for 18 months.
Things were really good in the past. They work long hours which I'm sure is very tiring. I think I'm just holding on hoping that things will improve. I'm happy day to day I think, I just have no idea how to change things!
Thoughts please, brutal as you like. Thank you.