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Where to meet good women!

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StrongSilent Mon 11-Jan-16 10:26:55

So this is my first thread on this forum, guess I'm looking for advice from women which is why I'm here. Could say I'm a long time reader first time poster, there are a lot of helpful and very friendly people here which is great!

I'm a 29 year old male with a decent job, my own place (a friend lives with me), good but demanding and busy job, my own fairly successful company too (more work..), but terrible luck with women.

It's not that I have trouble picking up girls, I've had my fair share of luck in that respect. It's finding good ones. My last girlfriend cheated on me with her ex about a year ago, we have been dating 14 months. That really knocked my confidence and I didn't go on a date for at least 6 months and not had anything remotely meaningful since.

Now in the movies, its easy. You go to a bookshop or an art gallery and start talking to a gorgeous brunette in a red dress who you take for coffee and live happily ever after. In real life, things aren't so simple. I've tried one or two dating websites but it isn't really for me.

Where do I go to find decent single women? Women who can hold a conversation with at least a little intelligence? I'm kinda picky and have high standards, but I make no apologies for that!

CheersMedea Mon 11-Jan-16 10:51:54

where do you live SS? roughly?

If you are in London, lots of places spring to mind.

Beyond that my top tip for meeting women would be volunteer for a charity, particularly charities involving caring work or children, they are filled with young, intelligent and kind hearted women. Almost no men do this volunteering roles. The ratio I'd guess is about 90:10, maybe even 95:5.

Also certain evening classes/courses tend to be full of women trying to meet men where there are few men. . .wine tasting is one example but lots of others.

Intelligence2 debates are also full of educated, interested people (men & women) although its harder to get chatting to people there and you'd need to make a concerted effort to start talkin. The age range very much depends on the topic. Some topics attract older people. www.intelligencesquared.com/

FredaMayor Mon 11-Jan-16 11:27:19

If you want to do classes why not take up women's hairdressing? You'll get all the conversation you can handle.

Ready123 Mon 11-Jan-16 12:00:23

I've always thought that if I were a man wanting to meet women I would join a big choir! There are so many women and so few men - and you really don't need to be a good singer to join some large community choirs. A lot of them just rehearse for a specific concert so it's not too much commitment.

You probably have to be a bit careful which choir you join though - I imagine that in some areas you are more likely to meet people three times your age.

Otherwise, any activities that involve meeting lots of different people including women. For example, becoming a techie for a local theatre group (even if acting isn't your thing) or joining a mixed hockey club etc.

Offred Mon 11-Jan-16 13:40:12

If you are meeting and dating lots of women what is the reason things aren't going any further?

I know lots of people swear by the whole meet/date loads thing but I just find that a bit soul destroying and desperation inducing.

I'm quite picky too, not in a conventional way, but still picky. I find I am never short of actually interesting people but usually I get on with my life, focussing on me and end up just meeting someone I really like by doing normal things when I'm not looking.

With lots of dating I feel I am going a bit mad and I don't think it is for me. Plus I feel it kind of trains you into seeing people as objects a bit because it's such an artificial situation and people are so replaceable.

IamlovedbyG Mon 11-Jan-16 13:45:23

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Toystory4 Mon 11-Jan-16 13:54:05

At that age - aren't bars etc the usual way?

Walking groups, singles holidays

maybebabybee Mon 11-Jan-16 13:54:54

hmm

Maybe you should stop focusing on quantity. Do you want to meet multiple women or one?

In answer to your question - Open Mic nights for comedy or music. You'll meet a bunch of people who are outgoing and at least slightly talented.

Itisbetternow Mon 11-Jan-16 16:08:05

My running club is jam packed full of women of all ages. Rock Choir tends to attract younger women so as someone else said I would imagine lots of women there too. I've been on OLD and can hold a reasonable conversation so perhaps you are being slightly too quick to dismiss it.

sije Mon 11-Jan-16 16:12:39

"picking up girls", not a great phrase to be using on MN, it even offended me.

Bobblehat10 Mon 11-Jan-16 16:53:34

Get married - once you've done that you meet all sorts of interesting and lovely people.......

Awaits flaming with a smile....

Oldisthenewblack Mon 11-Jan-16 17:08:16

I agree with the "picking up girls" line. Girls? Really? I think you'll find we prefer the term "women" And you 'pick up' litter, or a virus...

Oldisthenewblack Mon 11-Jan-16 17:09:05

Other than that - I do wish you luck smile

MuttonDressedAsMutton Mon 11-Jan-16 17:17:16

Ugh @ 'picking up girls'. That leads me to a. disbelieve pretty much everything about your faintly creepy post and b. despair that someone who clearly considers himself intelligent thinks it's ok to refer to meeting women as 'picking up girls'. Why don't you just say 'birds' and be done with it?
I think perhaps a little self-awareness wouldn't go amiss.

usual Mon 11-Jan-16 17:19:38

Try online dating. MN is not a dating site.

HTH

YouBastardSockBalls Mon 11-Jan-16 17:20:09

Fucks sake, another one!?

You want an 'intelligent woman' who can 'hold a conversation' and live up to your 'high standards'?

You've been 'picking up' plenty of girls, but only shit ones, you can't seem to find a 'good one'?

You'd have more time on your hands if you stopped trolling mumsnet for half a day.

YouBastardSockBalls Mon 11-Jan-16 17:23:24

And if you are real, the fact that you're quite open about how you have no problem sticking your dick in all the crap women you've met, but you're just sooooooo much better than them really is seriously creepy and unattractive.

DrMorbius Mon 11-Jan-16 18:19:32

Where do I go to find decent single women? Women who can hold a conversation with at least a little intelligence? I'm kinda picky and have high standards, but I make no apologies for that!

You do know you have posted on Mumsnet, right?

lorelei9 Mon 11-Jan-16 18:25:01

"In the movies"

Yeah dude, I'm on the bus home after another boring Monday at work. Don't see much of that in the movies either.

HDEN1207 Mon 11-Jan-16 18:32:47

Is it just me that finds it odd this guy is asking for ways to "pick up a girl" on mumsnet?hmm

Lacoba66 Mon 11-Jan-16 18:36:49

Is there a suggestion that 'women' who do on line dating, are not intelligent and can not hold a conversation hmm.

sugar21 Mon 11-Jan-16 18:39:26

Have you ever wondered why you've hád little luck with women?
Could it possibly be your attitude towards them?
By saying picking up girls, do you mean you want to get your leg over and say goodbye. That's how its comes across in your post dude.
I'm single but reading the self absorbed post you have written I wouldn't go near you.
That don't impress me much

PrincessBooBoo Mon 11-Jan-16 19:29:16

Gym?? Or maybe better a running club - loads of girls / women

KacieB Mon 11-Jan-16 19:36:56

OMG! A man on Mumsnet! One looking for intelligence as well as beauty, I'm sold! PM me for a sexy but smart time OP grin

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