Morning!
I need a slap as I'm having a bit of a wobble.
I met my wonderful DP seven months ago and we have been inseperable ever since. We are so utterly compatible and are so in love (quick I know). We understand eachother, we are open and honest about everything, and we are incredibly similar.
The bonus is he gets on tremendously well with my two DS's (6 and 10yrs) and is more than willing to help and support me in any way he can. I don't think I have ever felt so connected with anyone my entire life (including ex-H)
I have one issue however, he does not want children of his own.
Now my backstory is, I was with my ex-husband for nearly ten years. I have issues conceiving (PCOS) so am terribly terribly lucky to have the boys. In ten years these were my only pregnancies, despite not using any birth control.
I am 37 years old and have such a strong desire to have another child one day with the man I love. In my heart I can think of nothing more amazing than creating a little life one day with DP (romanticising I know). Even if he were to change his mind (highly highly unlikely), we would need to plan well in advance as I need to take fertility drugs and have tests etc. I feel time is not on my side as even if he did change his mind, I wouldn't want to think about it for a couple of years. I'll be 39 then, plus at least a year or two TTC...
I know I need to snap out of it as he's always made it clear he does not want his own children. Plus I have two wonderful DS's already who I am very lucky to have.
My question is, did you get over it? Or will this eat away at me and eventually make me bitter and resentful?
I think only I will ever know, but if you've experienced this and it worked out well, then I'd love to hear from you!
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Can you please share your experiences of having a successful relationship with someone who doesn't want children?
FrazzleRock · 09/01/2016 11:24
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