Hey ladies this is my first post so please bear with my blabbering :)
So my husbands a soldier and we have a beautiful nearly 9 month old baby. I know the life I married into the travelling ect so that's not the problem ... My husband is...
His attitude stinks... He speaks to me like he is a stroppy teenager. He's arrogant and very passive aggressive. And just so unappreciative.
We have just moved 300 miles away from family for this new job role he was desperate for. I packed up the house and moved again to a place I don't know and I don't know a soul.
I have literally no friends the only person I have to talk to is my mum.
His mums a bitch (this is the argument we have had tonight).
I need to know if anyone else thinks I have a point.
Our daughter is her first and only grandchild and the only girl in her family. Before Xmas MIL arranged a 'family meal' invited her neighbors , other sons girlfriends everyone but wouldn't allow our daughter to come!! Originally our baby was invited but a few weeks before it was said she wasn't as they wanted to enjoy the meal!!! I was furious still am and refused to go and talked my hubby into not going. She also never rings or asks to Skype. Never asks to come down or takes up invites to come down. My husband rings her and she will ask hubby about him and work ect and he has to say oh baby's ok and doing this and that.
To me I find that disgusting!!! My family ring daily or every few days depending on the family member to ask about baby but she just doesn't bother. She talks over me to other people when I speak to her when I'm at her house and is just an utter bitch!
But hubby says it's my fault she's like this as I refused to go to the meal baby wasn't invited to.
I understand people want to enjoy a meal ect but a big deal was made that it was a family Xmas meal the sons girlfriends who are not very long relationships and neighbors could go but not my baby!
Am I being irrational about this?
up until a few weeks ago I would ring MIL and send her photos take baby to see her arrange days out ect, but tonight I've said to hubby I'm hurt by the fact she doesn't bother and want her to make an effort.
He simply blamed me saying it's because I wouldn't go to the family meal so I've annoyed her. I said he needs to stop sticking up for his mum as if it was my mum he would voice his opinion to me. In the end he said if I want to leave him go!!
Which has really upset me. He goes away in a few days for 2 months (MIL won't contact me at all during this time to ask about baby) and I hate that he's falling out with me over it.
All I want is for baby to have a bond with MIL but I feel asif I'm doing all the work and I don't want to anymore!!!
Like I said sorry about the long post I just need some advice xx
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NorthernBird92 · 07/01/2016 00:13
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