Good morning. I would really appreciate some advice I have been hit with some emotions that have taken me by surprise and I have never had these before . Here goes.
I had a very unhappy childhood my mum was very controlling and consequently hit us if we didn't conform to her wants and ways. She was always miserable and looking back now I think she was depressed. She is not a woman that many people warm to and my husband who is a wonderful man said he has never actually seen her happy. We have been married for 28 years. I left home and got married and I have in my husband the most patient caring man. He listens to all my mini moans and is very content with his lif. We had two children and I gave them both the childhood I never had we were like the three musketeers we were so happy, ther was endless trips swimming, days out to London attractions, lots of hugs and lots of love.
They went to a nice school and learnt well, they passed their exams and both went onto university. I am very proud of their achievements,me specially as they picked their own courses and their own university's.(my mother I can assure you would have intervened in any of my choices).
So here is my feelings. It is so hard now I worked so hard to provide them with a stable upbringing and me and my husband worked so hard to move away from our old loves and buy a house in a lovely area for them . There choice in partners is just hard to understand. I can assure you now I have only spoken to my husband abou this as I would never ever talk to them. I do not want to interfere however I am only human and I am allowed feelings which I admit have taken me by surprise. My eldest DD partner is just so boring and lazy to the point that my husband even thinks that too. We both don't think she is particularly happy and is now moving 100 miles away to be nearer the family and to make sure it works! I have to admit alarm bells have started in my head. The second daughter was with the most wonderful boyfriend who had the most loveliest of families and a flat and a good job. They are not together now as he started to lie to her and to be honest I could write a complete whole new thread on that situation !!!!!
She is now mealy a year later after the break up with this lad who comes from the really bad part of town. He has a dysfunctional family and has been engaged before! He is only 25 and yes he has been engaged before. It's early days but he does appear to be very kind to my daughter and like her has been hurt as his ex fiancé cheated on him. He has been honest and kind. But for some reason I thought she was going to marry a doctor, accountant or a lawyer I find myself thinks .what!!!!!!! But I really did I just wanted her to have a wonderful life with a wonderful in laws and I am just shocked I feel this way.
Please don't be harsh with me as I can honestly say it took a lot to write my feelings down this morning.
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AnnP1963 · 02/01/2016 08:45
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